Get over a Friend Who Back Stabbed You

Steps

1. First, accept the pain. You are saddened by the discovery of this treason.
2. Give some thought to why it happened. Were you nasty to this person?
3. Learn what not to do next time to prevent someone to take advantage of you.
4. Make new friends, and lots of them.
5. Try to spend your time not moping, instead sing some happy songs or talk on the phone. Notice if, when just laying around, everything comes back (sadly)
6. Now, think ahead what you would tell others about the sudden demise of this friendship.
   • Of course, secrets you shared with this friend are not to be told (at all!) to other people; be prudent and shut up about his/her information.
7. Allow yourself sometimes to be sad because the loss of a good buddy.
8. Answer the suggestion: Would you forgive this person? Why yes or not?.
9. Remind yourself, “I have the right to preserve myself from nasty attacks.” and “I can be perfectly happy without the hurt coming from him / her in my life”.
10. Tell yourself: I decide who is with me in a safe and nurturing way; so I can defend myself from any sneak attack.”
11. Move on.