Posted by alishbacloseAuthor: alishbaName: Alishba Jamal Site:http://www.pakistanigurls.com About: Hi, this is Alishba, i graduated from Bahria University, currently doing job at a telco company and write for this site in my free time, hope u guys enjoy my posts and find them helpfull.See Authors Posts (37) on October 31, 2009 · 8 Comments
Want more than anything else in the world to ask the cutest guy in the world out, but you melt when your near him? Everyone knows that it’s never easy to do something like that, no matter how much experience you’ve had. The good news is, this article’s here to help you with that.
Steps
1. Pick a guy that isn’t taken. This is probably the most important part!!
2. Get to know that guy and see if you like him or not.
3. If you do but are barely able to talk to him ( let alone ask him out),make yourself known in his presence. Try finding out what things you have in common.. Join a club together, play a sport, or just talk about something
4. Practice talking to him in the mirror. This may seem old fashion and boring at first, but if you really like him, it will pay off.
5. Get up your guts and go say hi. Strike a conversation, anything, if you have similar interests.
6. See how it goes when he is around you. If he likes you, then that is absolutely great. If he doesn’t, well, he might be shy, but either way, you should still ask him out.
7. Ask him out. This is the hardest part because it takes bravery to go up to a guy who’s been to your liking such a long time. And if you really really can’t ask him out try telling him that you like him first because then there might be more chance that when you do ask him out that he’ll say yes since he’s had time to get used to the fact you like him. Some guys freak out at first, so that’s why you sometimes get rejected by them!
8. If you’re too scared to ask a guy out that you like, try getting him to notice you like when he walks by you say hello or stare at him passionately to tell him something. If you thinks that a bad idea then try finding out where he hangs out and when you walk by and look at him and smile. Then talk to him a bit get to know him if he has friends that are girls ask them what hes like and then either go for a direct approach or as him to a movie and say it wit him and some of your friends that way its not so awkward.
Tips
* If you’re playing the hinting game, be obvious! Guys don’t realize you’re hinting and flirting unless it’s pretty obvious!
* try to find out if he likes you first before you ask him out. Otherwise you may get hurt. But, don’t be pushy when you ask, that could make him not like you.
* Flirt. Guys love it when you flirt plus it drops a hint in a subtle way.
* Make him laugh. They won’t date you if you’re really boring.
* Don’t worry too much about being rejected, most guys generally won’t say no, even if you’re not considered popular. If he asks you about your motivations for asking him out, or some other vague question instead of actually answering, he most likely just wasn’t expecting you to ask him out and is actually just playing for time so he can try to figure out how to say yes while simultaneously looking ‘cool’, just give him a few moments, do something to ease the tension like smiling (sincerely). He will most likely end up saying “Oh fine”. Do not be discouraged, he has just failed to generate a cool response and has switched to the “Well I don’t care very much, but I’ll go anyways” attitude, he will warm up eventually.
Warnings
* If he says no, you are probably too good for him anyways. He doesn’t know whom he is messing with.
* If he says no, don’t hold a grudge. that could make it so he never likes you.
* Don’t ask him in front of friends since that will put pressure on him and he’s most likely to say no in front of his friends!
* If he says maybe, don’t get your hopes up too high because maybe he doesn’t have the heart to say no or that he needs time to think about it properly. He probably doesn’t want to make you feel bad.
* Start out with small things like slow dancing at school dances or partnering up for a school project.
* If he says no because he is taken, let him know you are still on a friendly status, just incase he has a fight with her, he’ll think you are more supportive of him than she is and start to realise he likes you.
finally even if a guy of your dreams (the prince charming, the knight in shining Armour or Mr right) refuses to have a committed relationship with you, chances are that he ATLEAST wont refuse to have casual sex with you......just imagine women, you can so easily have sex with the guy of your dreams.....can men do that? hell no!
alitahir
this is more of a problem for guys than it is for women.
its us guys who have to work harder to approach women, make all the right moves and come up with some fcuking perfect pick up line to 'ask women out'
the problem with women is that if a guy approaches her and she is not interested, she wont just say NO politely like "im sorry im not interested" but actually create a scene....as if the guy has made the biggest mistake of his life or committed some sin... women are known to respond irrationaly, negatively,rudely when approached by men they are not interested in.....why cant you just say no??
its women who are known to humiliate/ridicule men who approach them when the guy is God forbid not upto her standards "youure way ouuta my leauge....in your dreams.......etc"
its women who are known to spew BS like "aaap ko sharam nahi aati.......aaap kay ghar main behnain nahi hain" when approached by men they are not interested in
its women who are known to complain to the authorities, parents and brothers when approached by men they are not interested in........when they can simply refuse in most cases.
women dont have to worry about any of this bullshit from men. even if a less attractive female approaches a guy (a girl of lower social status, less attractive, education) the guy will still not humiliate her and so things like "apni aukaat dekho, youre way outta my league" etc shit that women say...the guy will politely refuse or atleast talk to her. go figure.
women dont need to fear any irrational, spontaneous utterings like "aap ko sharam nahi aati" they dont have to fear getting slapped by the guy if she hits on him, something that women are known to do.
women are strange in this regard....they expect men to make the first move, yet they create a scene, make a big deal if they are not interested. its like they consider it a sin if the guy who gives them attention is not the one they wanted.
so in the end, this topic is just bullshit. all you have to do is go upto a guy and ask him out, the consequences for women are defintely far less. you dont risk your ego when you ask men out. we risk a lot more.. better yet just stare at a guy and go grab his hand in public....you women dont have to worry about cops coming to his rescue !! you wont get slapped either.
toxiccc
hahahahahah look at this one : ** Don’t worry too much about being rejected, most guys generally won’t say no** hahahha , alaa !
Abdul Sami
i think ya girls k liya boyfriend bnana acha ha bi or nai bi, mera aik friend ha us ki girl friend us ki wife ha, or aik friend ki girl friend us ko yad kur k roti ha is liya lurkiyo ko awal to boyfriend bnana hi nai chahiya agar bnana bi ha to ya daikh lain k us ki life tbah na ho bus ma ksi aisi lurki say kabi shadi nai karu ga agar mujay pta chalay k us ka koi boyfriend bi tha even ma nai bulkay koi lurka bi is liya tmam girls ko mera mushwara ha k friend bnain but only girls ko ya apnay brother ya father ko ya mother ya sister ko Allah hafiz
Sanam Khan
Amna i think its helpfull :P because i told these steps to my best frnd and she is now pretty much happy ! u might be unlucky or u hvnt tried it yet. Anyways its only helpfull if u are in such kinda situation. Chears !!!!!
Amna Sh
Pretty stupid and useless article.
alitahir
ofcourse the article is useless. most guys generally wont say no !